CareerSelf-Forgiveness Sample Template - Rebecca Le Vine

April 5, 2019by Rebecca Le Vine0

 

Circumstance to forgive

(Step 1)

All the years that I have spent participating in the Time4Money Exchange has left me feeling hopeless, bored and powerless.
Forgiveness Statement (Step 2)I forgive myself for entering into and staying in a Time4Money Exchange that did not serve me. Although I was not aware I was doing it at the time, I acknowledge that this has caused me pain.
Forgiveness Statement (Step 2)I forgive myself for believing I am powerless in this situation.
Forgiveness Statement (Step 2)I forgive myself for believing my situation was hopeless.
Forgiveness Statement (Step 2)I forgive myself for not knowing how to change my circumstances.
Forgiveness Statement (step 2)I forgive myself for not acknowledging this sooner. I forgive myself for not being aware of what was causing me pain.
Gratitude Statement (Step 3)Now, in this moment, I am grateful that I have this opportunity to forgive myself. I open myself to the truth that I am powerful. I have the power to change any circumstance in my life to my benefit. I am grateful for this experience, for it has made me realize the truth about my current situation. I am grateful that it has shown me a reason for my pain. I know my feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness can be changed. In this moment, with this gratitude, I forgive myself.

 

Self-Forgiveness Sample Template

Circumstance to forgiveI have experienced a lack of reward in my work.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for accepting less than I am worth.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for doubting my worth, my skills or my abilities.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for believing I am powerless to change my situation.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for allowing this situation to continue.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for not speaking up for myself.
Gratitude StatementI am grateful for this situation. It has made me see my worth. I recognize my worth and am willing to have others recognize it as well. I know that I can and will seek situations and employers who will recognize my worth and reward me accordingly. I am grateful because I now can take the time to develop a deep “knowingness” of what I bring to the table, to honestly see my own worth and claim it. I am grateful for this experience and in this feeling of gratitude, I forgive myself.

 

Self-Forgiveness Sample Template

Circumstance to forgiveI have been on a career detour rather than actively directing my career.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for the time I have spent not moving in the direction of my dreams or talents or desires.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for allowing my career to meander.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for feeling I wasn’t worthy or deserving of having my dreams or expressing my talents or achieving my desires.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for any resistance or doubt I demonstrated about my dreams for my professional life that may have had the consequence of holding me back.
Gratitude StatementIn the peace of gratitude, I acknowledge that I am worthy and deserving of having my desires. I know I have the power to define a vision for my professional life. I have the power to take action on this vision. I am grateful for this experience because it has shown me not only the need to declare my vision but also that I have what it takes inside to achieve it. It is in this feeling of gratitude that I forgive myself.

Self-Forgiveness Sample Template

Circumstance to forgiveI have not been fulfilled by my work.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for allowing my need for fulfillment to go unmet.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for staying in professional situations that did not (do not) fulfill me.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for allowing the lack of fulfillment to transform into boredom and for not being engaged in my work.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for believing that my employer has more power in this situation than I do.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for all of the time I have let pass me by.
Gratitude StatementI am so thankful that I have realized the need I have for fulfillment and how important it is to experience fulfillment in my life. Now, I can actively seek out those situations and experiences that will bring me the fulfillment I need. I know that I have all the power I need to find the right work experience. I know right here and now that I no longer have to be in servitude to boredom. I am grateful that I now have the awareness of my right to have fulfilling work. It is in this feeling of gratitude that I completely and wholly forgive myself.

Self-Forgiveness Sample Template

Circumstance to forgiveI have experienced a lack of expression in my professional life.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for not expressing my gifts and talents, for letting them lie dormant.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for not seeking situations in which I could share my authentic expression.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for being unaware of the unique gifts and talents I have to share.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself if I have let any person or circumstance block my expression.
Forgiveness StatementI forgive myself for believing I was powerless to change my circumstances.
Gratitude StatementI am so grateful and thankful that I am now aware that I have not experienced authentic expression. I am thankful that I have seen this truth. I do have something so special within me to give. I am grateful that I now know that I have the power to change my circumstances. I can give myself the space to fully express my gifts and talents. I can give myself the time I need to identify my unique expression and the gifts and talents I bring to the table. I deserve to find work situations in which I can express these gifts. It is in this place of gratitude that I forgive myself.

Good work.

Now we are going to do the second part of the Forgiveness step. We are going to shift our focus to forgiving others/circumstances/situations. In this part of the Forgiveness step, we turn our attention outward, searching for the “slings & arrows” that have hurt us, shamed us or ticked us off. This part will make our pain that was caused by others stop hurting.

No doubt as you contemplate the others/situations/circumstances that have contributed to your damaged relationship with work, you might be faced with the need to forgive those currently around you. You might wonder, “How do I forgive my boss when I have to see them every day?” Or “How do I forgive my employer for not promoting me when I have to work in the same situation every day?” Or “How do I forgive the fact I was laid off six months ago, and I am still unemployed?”

These are all valid questions.

So how do you forgive the painful aspects of your relationship with work that may be currently happening? We do that by putting our goal for the act of Forgiveness front and center. We are forgiving others/circumstances/situations to make it stop hurting. Yes, you might have to go into work tomorrow and see that same coworker or that manager who has harmed you. But when you know in your heart you are taking action to improve your relationship with work and thereby improve your own life, it makes the situation easier to handle. You know in your heart you have done what you needed to do for yourself. Not for another but for yourself. You have taken care of yourself. Forgiveness is an act we do for ourselves.

While we might have a clear intellectual understanding of this concept, I know it can be hard to actualize. It can be difficult to forgive that which is currently happening. For my clients who struggle with this very situation, I give them three “gut check” questions to answer. If you find yourself experiencing this struggle, take a minute and go through the ‘gut check’ questions below:

  1. By withholding forgiveness, you will continue to feel the hurt/pain that has been caused by others/circumstances/situations. Are you ready to have peace rather than pain?

oYes o No

  1. By withholding forgiveness, you will remain trapped by the situation/person/feeling. Are you ready to be free of the situation/person/feeling?

oYes o No

  1. Are you ready to move forward, to move beyond the pain that you are experiencing?

oYes o No

If you answered no to any of these questions, remind yourself that forgiveness does not imply that you condone another’s actions toward you or approve of the situation you find yourself in. Forgiveness is an act you consciously engage in to free yourself from the past, to free yourself from negative emotions that do not serve you, to make it stop hurting. Forgiveness is what you do for yourself to release yourself from the prison of the past and the present. Forgiveness is what you do for yourself so you can have the future you desire.

Rebecca Le Vine

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